Father's Fighting for Custody in Divorce
Posted By Menduni Martindill || 21-Sep-2012
It is not uncommon to hear that when a couple gets a divorce and are fighting for custody that the mother is awarded primary or sole custody of the kids. This is hard for many fathers to deal with because in most circumstances they love their kids just as much as the mother does, and yet she is getting the custody. The history behind fathers getting custody of their children has fluctuated over the centuries. In the 1800’s, the issue of children in divorce was simple, they were considered to be custody and therefore when spouses separated, the husband would be awarded the custody.
Over the following centuries the psychology behind divorce and parenting drastically changed, flipping custody then over to the next extreme. Psychologists determined that kids were better off only with their mothers because of being in their tender years therefore making it the standard that mothers received the custody of the children. Today however, many psychologists and court judges are coming to realize that the issue cannot be settled when resting on those two extreme principles. Rather, the parent’s wants are going to be the last observed in the situation regarding custody of the children; the judge will want to examine what is in the best interest of the child.
Now this does not necessarily mean the kids get to pick where they go, but rather the judge will take into account the many variables that involved in the children’s family life. Which parent is the provider or the care giver? Which parent has the strongest relationships with the kids? Who is more fit to actually care for the children? And so on. Today it is not uncommon to hear that a father has been given custody of his children, even as a working dad many times it is the best place for them to be. With society becoming more feministic, more and more women are choosing to climb the ladders of success just like men when it comes to careers.
Many times when people get married now a day, the wife will already have a high paying job and when they have kids the father will stay home while the mom goes off to work. Had this happened in the 1800’s people would be very taken back, and yet times are changing, and today more and more woman are working while the dads stay at home. Because of this, the fight for fathers to have a right to seek custody of their children is growing immensely. Many lawyers all over the country are seeking ways in which to best present the fathers when dealing with child custody issues. If you or someone you know is a father or mother considering a divorce and has questions regarding child custody, contact the law office of Menduni Martindill today for more information.